Wow these just keep popping up in my Facebook newsfeed! But I read this post last night: The Other Woman Who Snuggles My Daughter. As much fear as this strikes in me, I appreciate the author’s honesty with how it makes her feel to think of another woman “replacing” her.
I definitely fear that the ex-wife will feel this way about me and NOT be the bigger person in the end. That she will say hateful things about me or about the bf to her daughter – she is, after all, her mom, and young daughters are especially impressionable. It scares me!
I’ve asked the bf before if he thinks that me being in his and his daughter’s life would cause trouble with the ex wife, but he said no. (Then again, he also said she would be supportive if he ever lost his job, and was wrong about that – and unfortunately I was right with my hunches on that!)
I kind of wish the ex-wife didn’t want/need to meet me – selfishly, that would make it easier for me, but at the same time if things go well or even moderately well, maybe it will make things easier in the long run, especially if she ends up not seeing me as a threat by any means.
Ah. In the end, this is all speculation. I wonder how things will actually go down, whenever that happens…
Also, I love reading people’s comments on the post – so many stories with all different outcomes, which again goes to my point that every situation is so different. Like my godmother’s vs my former coworker’s situations – both so different, who’s to say how my situation will turn out?